HELLO HELLO! SCHOOL IS KICKING MY ASS SO I LITERALLY HAVE ALMOST NO TIME TO WRITE JASKJDKJA AND WHEN I DO ITS THIS TRASH AKSJKDAJ *crawls back to my void*
alsoooooooooooooo, a lot of people had questions regarding Tobio not being able to remember certain events (eg.: most of the hints Oikawa has given that he knows he is Kags' soulmate) and here i have an absolute blessing from lilacpaintchips !! (thanks so much again i have no idea how to explain as well as u do (;´༎ຶ益༎ຶ`)♡)
<< Also, maybe Tobio has difficulty with object permanence so he just, forgets things. It's something that happens with victims of trauma or abuse and people with mental health issues. Having trouble with memory wouldn't be so out of the question here given his traumatic past.
Also, when you've experienced a trauma or have an unshakeable belief that something is supposed to be a certain way, your brain tends to just, sorta, selectively ignore certain things or memories that dispute that.
So like, for me, I have very supportive and loving friends, but don't find myself deserving of that, so my brain will twist memories and overthink people's behaviour to fit the belief that no one cares, nor should they.
Just a theory, but I feel like it would fit Tobio's character here. Having trauma and mental health issues also means having a bit of a skewed outlook on reality. Also just, running away from things you want or are good for you out of fear of either losing it eventually, or it being too good to be true, or whatever else, it's not uncommon. Also, denial is very much something that he'd deal with as a result, just being unable to accept that people do care, and will stay, and he's good enough, and things sometimes aren't too good to be true, it's yeah.
I hope what I said was coherent, I'm not always the best at explaining things. >>
(tysm hope this clears everything up and you enjoy this weird short chapter i most definitely did not type during a maths test)